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Maybe There is a Reason Allah Made Men Forgetful

Assalaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,

Every man here will sympathise I am sure, unless he has an eidetic memory the frustrations of getting into an argument with his wife, and she can bring up past mistakes in detail whilst he is pretty sure there are some similar good points from his side, but right there and then the details just are not there.

Point and often argument lost in many cases and men in they are wise learn other coping mechanisms to deal with this side of relationships over the years.

My own personal one being not allowing the matters to escalate to that level in the first place because it’s not possible to ‘win’ in such a situation against a woman, even if you come up with the pertinent facts she just changes angle and brings up some related topic, or something totally unrelated until she ‘wins.’

But what if we could remember brothers, what then?

Being a somewhat typical INTJ personality type, I thought I’d come up with a cunning plan to get around my male memory and I did once make a spreadsheet of every thing done in our relationship, good or bad but this included every argument and misdemeanor for about two months in a row.

Not a good idea apparently and it was one of the worse times in our marriage at least from my point of view as I found myself becoming more agitated and not my usual calm self, as each day I would submit the latest entries, and dwell on past problems.

I became more liable to see flaws I would otherwise have not seen, or else let go long before, in the past. Every relatively minor little thing became another bitter addition to the previous few days list of what were really totally minor and petty disagreements.

I’d often become vexed, walking around doing a Mr angry impression with the Mrs not knowing why and often I was more annoyed with an unresolved issue from days or even weeks before I’d read about that morning than I was about the actual thing which was on my mind right then.

So maybe for good reason we are forgetful creatures, perhaps it’s really a good thing, or mostly so.

This old English saying (actually most languages probably have this one) has a lot of truth in it…

“MEN DO NOT FORGIVE, THEY FORGET. WOMEN FORGIVE EVERYTHING BUT NEVER FORGET!”

Whenever I have to listen to a brother or sister discuss the problems in their marriage, men tend to have a few ‘big’ items they just cannot let go off, where as the sisters… the sisters can write long lists sometimes even with dates of every infraction real or imagined most of which the man cannot even remember happening.

In our lives trying to follow Islam brothers need to learn to forgive, struggle and strive to forgive others especially our spouses and sisters need to learn to let things go, if a matter is resolved and in the past don’t keep bringing it up every time you are angry with him.

Psychologists have pondered over the reason why men are more forgetful, and this has been measured and proven to be so but for whatever reason Allah has designed and made us different in this way. I am not sure there is one reason why, but perhaps if men were less forgetful they would not be able to fully function in their overall tole as leaders of the household.

We are made to be forgetful of these little details in arguments and life and if this makes married life run along more smoothly so Alhamdulillah I am grateful to Allah he has made us this way.

Assalaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu,

Gingerbeardman

Coolnessofhind – The Dark Shoddy “Science” Behind PREVENT

Originally blogged by CoolnessofHind on 30th September, 2016 – https://coolnessofhind.wordpress.com/2016/09/30/the-dark-shoddy-science-behind-prevent/

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In July of this year, I posted a blog asking the question in relation to the revelation that PREVENT was underpinned by a theory (Extremist Risk Guidance – ERG22+) formulated by British psychiatrists, What would these US psychologists make of Britain’s PREVENT Strategy? The American professors bluntly stated that the Countering Violent Extremism (CVE) agenda was “at best misguided, and at worst, vicious.”

The Pseudo-Science of PREVENT

CAGE’s devastating expose – The Science of Pre-Crime: The ‘Secret’ radicalisation study underpinning Prevent’– proves that Britain’s CVE – PREVENT – really is indeed, misguided, resulting in decisions which are vicious. The report exposes a 2010 study authored by two psychologists who are linked to the national security industry, Monica Lloyd and Christopher Dean, and used to formulate the pre-crime intervention model ERG22+.  Shockingly the authors themselves admitted that the research was lacking. Below are key quotes taken from the study:

“The current lack of demonstrated reliability and validity remains the main limitation of the ERG at this time. It remains essentially a qualitative tool that requires a level of professional judgment and experience to be effectively used.”

““The ERG is work in progress…”

“There remain important questions to be explored, most notably around reliability and validity,”

The study is fraught with further problems, some of which I have summarised and listed below:

  • Data is based discriminatorily on twenty Muslim prisoners convicted of terrorism.
  • Not all those convicted of terror-related offences are violent offenders.
  • The study ignores possibility of response bias (the extent to which prisoners provided answers that they felt the authorities wanted to hear)
  • The authors admit excluding political context as a specific factor
  • The authors, coming from a forensic perspective, leads them to “pathologise and look for explanations at the individual level” which results in applying a “very static and de-contextualised understanding as to why individuals become involved in political violence.”
  • The limited scope of the study which is problematic for specialists to implement is now being extrapolated to children in schools and patients in hospitals.
  • The limited scope of the study has been stretched to “all forms of extremism”

The Dangerous Implications of ERG

Highlighting the manifest danger of PREVENT, Professor Arun Kundnani wrote,

“With hundreds of thousands of public sector workers in Britain now required to absorb the government’s Extremist Risk Guidance and apply it in their work, the dangers of this research have never been greater.”

Also worth noting is that ERG is also being used in child law cases and determining the wardship of children. Remarking on the secretive, untested nature of ERG, Professor Adam Geary is quoted in the foreword of the report as stating,

“The limits of the ERG research used to create state duties raises profound questions about transparency and accountability… Seemingly, a line of recent case law suggests that individuals and families are being brought before secret courts on the basis of definitions derived from classified research, and thus raises immediate concerns in relation to our justice system.”

The clear implication of the above is that shoddy pre-crime science is potentially resulting in miscarriages of justice, with children being removed from families on the basis that their parents pose an “extremism” threat.

The Comical Home Office Spin and the Non-Academic Study!

The thoroughly surgical report has been reviewed by eighteen professors and academics, has forewords penned by noted professors, and is backed by a joint-statement by over 150 professors and academics including Marc Sageman and Noam Chomsky.  In other words, it carries considerable PREVENT-crushing weight.

In the face of this, there is only so much spin the Home Office and RICU – its propaganda department – can issue before it begins to look rather ridiculous.  If the Home Office statement is anything to go by, it seems this farcical state was unavoidable.

The Home Office responded by stating,

“The guidance that is used was based on a peer-reviewed study, carried out to meticulous academic guidelines and published in two publicly available academic journals.”

However, in the very same report, the Guardian sought the views from one of the study’s authors, Monica Lloyd.  According to Lloyd, the original study was “not an academic piece of work” but instead was an internal report by practitioners that was “done to the highest standard it could be done”.

Lloyd’s statement not only directly contradicts the Home Office, which claims that the guidance is based on an academic, peer-reviewed study, but it also reinforces the baselessness of PREVENT by clearly saying that the “study” is in fact an “internal report” which is not academic at all!

There is simply no coming back from this.  Some PREVENT-pushers have sought to deflect the report’s piercing findings through peripheral points which upon closer inspection, are hokum, (one individual on social media claimed the study was not secretive – directly contradicting the author’s claims directly quoted in the report). However, such efforts are simply embarrassing, reflecting the derelict state of the fatally wounded PREVENT Strategy.

Pertinently, such questions are also irrelevant. As the report incisively notes, “what is relevant now is for the government to answer difficult questions on how it came to institute a policy of assessing pre-criminal behaviour in 2011 using the ERG, when in 2015 the authors of that study were hesitant of its wider efficacy.”

The level of urgency for answers is accentuated given the disastrous consequences of PREVENT. From child psychological abuse in schools, to securitisation of purportedly confidential charities like the NSPCC; from the normalisation of political Islamophobia to the pecuniary and reputational losses suffered by Muslim teachers due to their privately held religious beliefs; from the castigation of political views on Palestine and shaping Muslim discourse and beliefs, to restriction of political participation of teenage Muslims who have already come into contact with PREVENT. PREVENT has and continues to leave a trail of neocon closed society destruction in its wake.

End PREVENT

When fake, ventriloquised “experts” like Sara Khan are paraded for days on disparate news channels regurgitating lines most likely authored for her by the Home Office in defence of PREVENT, it is a damning indictment of mainstream media that the report and its findings have not been reported in all major outlets (the “impartial” BBC, the Times, the Telegraph have not reported on it at the time of writing). However, this is not a stumbling block in the efforts to resist and ultimately remove PREVENT.  The movement against PREVENT has always been a grassroots, civil society-led one. It must continue to remain so, with or without the support of propaganda outlets.

PREVENT is an unjust strategy which has shredded the rule of law. Those Muslims – including Muslim organisations which claim to represent Muslims in Britain – whom support PREVENT or its reincarnation, must now accept that there is no more room for excuses.  Support of such failed, groundless strategies is support for the discrimination and persecution of the Muslim minority, intended or otherwise.

Civil servants and employees of public institutions and schools should reject the implementation of PREVENT on peaceful civil disobedience grounds until the law placing the PREVENT duty on statutory footing is abolished and the Strategy of stigmatisation is completely scrapped. This may seem like a drastic step, however, it is a necessary one, for relationships which hold society together are being torn apart through the atmosphere of suspicion fostered by PREVENT.  Such damage will take years if not decades to heal.

Now is the time to say no to the British neo-Stasi state. Now is the time to end PREVENT.

CoolnessofHind

thescienceofprecrimeprevent

In July of this year, I posted a blog asking the question in relation to the revelation that PREVENT was underpinned by a theory (Extremist Risk Guidance – ERG22+) formulated by British psychiatrists, What would these US psychologists make of Britain’s PREVENT Strategy? The American professors bluntly stated that the Countering Violent Extremism (CVE) agenda was “at best misguided, and at worst, vicious.”

The Pseudo-Science of PREVENT

CAGE’s devastating expose – The Science of Pre-Crime: The ‘Secret’ radicalisation study underpinning Prevent’– proves that Britain’s CVE – PREVENT – really is indeed, misguided, resulting in decisions which are vicious. The report exposes a 2010 study authored by two psychologists who are linked to the national security industry, Monica Lloyd and Christopher Dean, and used to formulate the pre-crime intervention model ERG22+.  Shockingly the authors themselves admitted that the research was lacking. Below are key quotes taken from the study:

“The…

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