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The World Cup of Cheats and Liars

O you who believe! Be afraid of Allaah, and be with those who are true (in word and deeds)
Quran translation, Surah at-Tawbah, 9:119

 

Assalaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatulllahi wa Barakatuhu,

I am sitting round at my father-in-law’s house on Eid day, when someone sticks the football world cup on, it’s Spain – vs – Portugal, and even I know enough about the game despite not watching for years now to know is meant to be a good one.

The match has only just started and within only a minute or so of it going on, the Portuguese player Christiano Ronando has got into the box, been clipped in the lightest of ways and gone down like he’s taken a bullet or a baseball bat to the back of the head.

I don’t doubt he was touched, I can even see it as a penalty but he has gone down, pulling his arms up into the body so the fall looks worse than it is, you actually have to be trained to do that, it’s totally unnatural. He’s an actor not a sportsman.

Well consider me triggered on this and I was going off on how this is just cheating and ‘this is why I don’t watch football anymore’ and fortunately we left shortly after but the next day this was the headline in the sports section of the newspapers…

He cheated, everyone saw him cheat, the football fans in the stadium as well as those at home, the commentators, the media, the manager who picked him and almost without exception every last one of them said “well done son, you cheated well.”

This is not just a problem with sports players, this is a problem with the whole of society that can see this happen and rewards this type of behaviour and I fear for the future of any community including the Muslim community here in the UK where such disgusting behaviour is normalised, accepted, actually not just accepted but applauded and seen as good.

Next time you get a chance when you’re in a park, see the kids playing and after a while you’ll see them rolling around on the floor when fouled, attempting to get someone sent off. Nothing less than an attempt to lie, to ruin someone else’s game over very little offense, see how they ape their heroes and then when you see this level of dishonesty in the rest of society you’ll know at least partially where it comes from.

Assalaamu Alaykum wa Rahmatulllahi wa Barakatuhu,

Gingerbeardman

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BBC – Salford Police Officer’s Facebook Rant Investigated

I am none too happy with the Police on this blog, there are some good ones I’ve met, and quite a few who were either lying or in denial about the dhulm / oppression their fellow officers do when in uniform, especially towards Muslims.

But sometimes we blame the Police unjustly for many social ills, often they are just ordinary people, trying to help the community in an imperfect way, with plenty of common sense but held down by a system which seems to lack all common sense and decency.

So try and have a little sympathy for the poor copper who is now going to have to pay the price for speaking a bit of truth to the parents of teenage delinquents in Salford.

Link to BBC news original article – http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-manchester-39887357

BBC – Salford Police Officer’s Facebook Rant Investigated

Good Morning everyone. An update on what's occurred in the area over the past 24hrs or so. It would be very quiet if it wasn't for one thing..or several "things".................. Kids/Yoofs/Yobs/Delinquents (cross out which one). There was a call to Heron Drive, Irlam to youths sitting or jumping on vehicles. The youths had gone home to mummy when officers arrived and no damage was found. There was a report of drunken youths on the fields at Sandy Lane, Irlam. Again, they had made off back to mummy, probably claiming that they had been doing their science project homework at a mates. How to get alcohol out of £3.60 dinner money.

A world-weary police officer who posted a tirade about “stoned youths” on a force Facebook page has landed himself in trouble.

The fed-up bobby laid into anti-social teenagers, parents, and community support officers in the message.

It appeared on the GMP Irlam and Cadishead page on 7 May, prompting a complaint from a teacher, according to the Manchester Evening News.

Greater Manchester Police’s Salford branch said it is investigating.

Ch Insp Glenn Jones said: “We have launched an internal investigation after we received a report of an inappropriate post on a GMP Facebook account.

“Officers and staff are expected to uphold the standards of behaviour in all of their duties including on social media.”

The post has since been deleted.

Police officer’s rant in full

“Good Morning everyone.

“An update on what’s occurred in the area over the past 24hrs or so. It would be very quiet if it wasn’t for one thing…or several “things”

“Kids/Yoofs/Yobs/Delinquents (cross out which one).

“There was a call to Heron Drive, Irlam to youths sitting or jumping on vehicles. The youths had gone home to mummy when officers arrived and no damage was found.

“There was a report of drunken youths on the fields at Sandy Lane, Irlam. Again, they had made off back to mummy, probably claiming that they had been doing their science project homework at a mates. How to get alcohol out of £3.60 dinner money.

“Please try and find out what your little Keanu or Beyonce are doing at night. If they’re drinking or smoking weed, there will be signs. If they are, they will no doubt be causing mither in the street.

“Youths were throwing stones at residents houses and residents themselves, from the railway viaduct over Roseway Avenue, Cadishead.

“And finally, there was a call to Tesco at Woodrow Way, Irlam. Security called to report one man and his dog at the Cashpoint machines.

“Many cashpoint areas have points where you can leave deposits for the bank. They did so…. Defecating at the cashpoint… Not the dog…. The man.We have a description (Of the man- not the deposit) and CCTV of the incident. The dog is entirely innocent… Wonder if it’s a shih-tzu?

“Only me in today as the PCSO’s don’t work on Sunday’s. They have the day off to play with their crayons and Lego.

“Take care and lock your kids up till school time on Monday.”

SEVEN STRATEGIES TO TRAIN KIDS THIS RAMADAN

 

children in islam 2The many aspects of Ramadan, fasting, prayers, moral values, charity, Qur’an, family, `Eid, provide a valuable opportunity to train kids.

Originally posted to Islamway.net – http://en.islamway.net/article/14113/seven-strategies-to-train-kids-this-ramadan?ref=c-rel&score=0.6

The many aspects of Ramadan, fasting, prayers, moral values, charity, Qur’an, family, `Eid, provide a valuable opportunity to train kids. Whether they are your own kids or kids you teach, education or training isn’t an automatic or easy process. Children don’t bring empty minds and fill them with what we say. Training requires effort, energy, and a few techniques to take off.

 Here are some training tips and techniques to transform your children’s minds and memories this Ramadan.
Let them get their Hands Dirty
“The great aim of education is not knowledge, but action.” Herbert Spencer
Children learn by “doing.” On average, students retain 75% of a lesson when they learn through hands-on activities compared to 5% through a lecture or 10% through reading(Brunmer, Jerome).
If, for example, you want to teach your kids the concept of zakah, get them to help you calculate your zakah, decide where to send the money, and mail the envelopes. Action and implementation can occur while children learn, not necessarily after!
The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) used to bring his grandchildren Hassan and Hussein to the mosque as toddlers before they knew how to pray.
A concept becomes real and important to children when they experience it rather than simply read about it. They’ll remember how to do it years later when you may catch them telling their friends “I’ve been calculating zakah since I was a kid!”
Involve their Emotions
When children get emotionally involved in an activity, they rarely want to leave it. Video games and TV shows target children’s emotions. As parents and educators, we can use the same technique for training.
Stories, songs, skits, crafts, and games grab children’s emotions. Once a child is interested and excited, they’re more likely to stay attentive till the end and get the message you want to give. Just as we remember events in our lives that were emotionally significant, children remember concepts learned through activities that were “fun,” “funny,” “exciting,” or “different.”
Don’t be afraid to stir some fun into your training—you don’t have to lose any content. Write a song about `Eid, create a Hadith treasure box, organize a Ramadan trivia night, or read a story about Ramadan in Medina. If the kids enjoy it, they’ll come back for more!
Reveal the Purpose
We often hear students complain, “why do we have to do this?” or “this math exercise is pointless.” Unfortunately, we often hear responses like “because I’m telling you to,” or “because you have to,” or worse, “you’ll get a new CD player if you finish the book.”
Like us, if children don’t see the purpose or importance of an action, they won’t have the motivation to complete it. To avoid getting similar comments from your kids about prayer or fasting, make sure they understand the purpose. Before you begin any lesson, whether it’s a story about the companions of the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) or an `Eid craft, explain exactly why you are doing the activity and what benefits the children will gain from it.
Remind your children that they are doing acts of worship to please Allah, not you. Explain why we need to please Allah and how every action, including washing dishes or math homework, will help us achieve that goal. If children are praying only to please you, when you leave, their motivation and prayers will disappear.
If children are motivated to fast Ramadan or complete the Qur’an for a material incentive (like a CD player), they may never develop a love of Allah or an intrinsic desire to perform the action. They may, instead, learn to value material rewards and when the rewards disappear, the actions may disappear with them.
Help your children understand that for Muslims, rewards don’t necessarily always come in this life. They may have to wait for the bigger and better rewards of the hereafter.
Highlight the Big Ideas
“Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school.”Albert Einstein
Ask yourself how many equations or formulas you remember from your Grade 12 math textbook. It may be five, two, or none. Let’s be honest – most of us retained very little of the details we learned.
Children will not retain all the fiqh rulings of zakah, wudu’, or Salah, and they won’t need to! Make sure the little that they retain is exactly what you want them to remember. Focus on the big ideas, such as the awareness that Allah is watching us, that we get our rulings from the Qur’an and the Sunnah, that Prayer is a means of self-purification, etc. Repeat these ideas every day in different ways. While your children instill these principles in their minds, show them how to learn the rest on their own when they need it.
Help your kids learn “how to learn.” Teach them where to find the fiqh information they need or how to research a topic and who to ask for information. They will be better prepared if they master the basics and know how to get the specifics. Memorizing every ruling will be a waste of their time and yours.
Let them Lead!
Children often take responsibilities more seriously than adults. The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) appointed Usamah ibn Zaid who was a young boy at the time, as commander of the Muslim army although many older and more experienced companions were present. The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) trusted Usamah’s capability for the position.
Give children leadership over important tasks and step out of the picture. Assign one child to wake up all his siblings for suhur. Let someone else be in charge of updating the iftar time every evening. Allow the children to plan, budget, and buy `Eid gifts for all the relatives. Let them choose which task they want to be in charge of.
Allow children to make mistakes and realize on their own what they should have done. Experience often trains better than instruction. Once a child goes out into the cold without a jacket, he’ll remember, before you can remind him, to put on his jacket next time.
Train kids to be responsible for their own learning. If a child asks, “Does brushing teeth break my fast?” a simple “yes” or “no” may give them the answer, but it won’t provide any long-term training. Ask them instead, “Where can you look to find that answer? Let’s do some research.”
Begin the month of Ramadan by asking your children to do a research project on what breaks the fast and what does not. If they find the information themselves, they are likely to remember it and know exactly where to get it again next year.
“The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”Carl Rogers
Get Excited!
“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.” W. B. Yeats
Kids catch on to your enthusiasm. Show some excitement and passion about the topic you’re teaching. Show your kids that you can’t wait for Ramadan to begin. Be cheerful at Prayer times. Decorate the house in anticipation of `Eid.
The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) taught by example. His character and actions motivated people to love and emulate him. Be the example you want your kids to be. Make a genuine effort to love the activities you want your kids to love.
Combine Love with Learning
The Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) would greet children warmly by hugging them, kissing them and picking them up.
Abu Huraira reported that al-Aqra’ b. Habis saw the Prophet (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) kissing Hasan. He said “I have ten children, but I have never kissed any one of them,” whereupon Allah’s Messenger (prayers and peace of Allah be upon him) said: He who does not show mercy (towards his children), no mercy would be shown to him. [Reported by Al-Bukhari]
«قبل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم الحسن بن علي وعنده الأقرع بن حابس التميمي جالسا، فقال الأقرع: إن لي عشرة من الولد ما قبلت منهم أحدا، فنظر إليه رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ثم قال: من لا يرحم لا يرحم» رواه البخاري
Show children that you love them, regardless of how they perform. Allow each child to progress at their own pace. Saying, “look at your cousin Aminah! She’s already finished the 15th Juz,” will only lower your child’s self-esteem and discourage what she’s already accomplishing.
Excessive competition and comparison can often result in helplessness and lack of motivation for children who learn in different ways or at a slower pace. Allow children to judge their own progress and compare themselves to their former level rather than that of others.
Make this Ramadan the beginning of a memorable and long-lasting training experience for you and your children!

THE SINGLE PARENT GUIDE TO QUICK AND HEALTHY COOKING

Faaizah Asmal Laher has some tips for making family meal preparation a less stressful affair when budgets and time are limited.

Article originally taken from Sisters Magazine – https://www.sisters-magazine.com/2015/12/01/the-single-parent-guide-to-quick-and-healthy-cooking/

single parent guide to cooking

Being a single parent is tough! You’ve got to manage being the sole bread winner, take care of household chores, get the kids to school on time and make sure that the food you’ve served up is nutritious, delicious, edible and quick!

I spoke to a group of single parents not too long ago (both male and female), and one wish they all had was a stay at home shopper-chef just so that they could come home to a ready-cooked, healthy meal. The majority of single parents felt that time was an issue – they needed to do so many things at once that cooking (but also cooking something healthy) was just not a priority! Yet, it was still something they wanted to change, so I showed them how to cook healthy meals, without breaking into a sweat!

Time is the enemy when it comes to preparing healthy meals. A long day at the office, exhaustion from the previous night of sleepless or ill children – it is so easy to reach into the freezer for a prepackaged pizza or a takeaway meal. Sure, that’s OK every once in a while but being able to prepare quick, healthy meals is really as easy as A, B, C!

Always have a plan

Planning in advance will make sure that you are always prepared for the week ahead. Plan a menu for a week to a month in advance. Make sure each meal (breakfast, snacks, lunch and dinner) are on the menu, and each contains a protein, a vegetable, a starch – and don’t forget about fruit for snacks. Include theme nights, for example Italian, Indian, vegetarian or kids night; and don’t forget all those favourite family meals.

Once your menu is set, make a corresponding shopping list. Include items such as long-life milk, cheese (in bulk is cheaper), canned goods like fish and beans; spices, oils and condiments; and dry goods like pasta and rice.

While shopping, stick to your list and shop early in the morning or late in the evening – try to avoid peak traffic times which will just add to wasted time.

Knowing what staple foods you have in your pantry can help you plan a menu that your family will enjoy.

Trawl the internet for recipes that can be cooked in under 30 minutes. Keep a chalk board behind the kitchen door for a weekly menu, and keep a monthly menu and shopping list in your diary. Retain all the menus, shopping lists and recipes – once the wheel is going there is no need to reinvent it. Just repeat favourite dishes every once in a while.

Budget eating can be healthy too

Buying in bulk can save you money! Team up with a friend so that you can split the petrol, and share the babysitting cost for that one big shopping trip once a month. Use retailers that allow you to buy in bulk for a saving, then split the shopping with a friend.

Use methods like canning or freezing summer goods to be used in winter. Frozen vegetables are just as good (some say even better) than fresh vegetables. Stock up on frozen goods if you live far away from a grocer.

Get the kids involved in the kitchen

Among the recommendations made by the American Heart Association for overweight and obese children was the importance of involving kids in the planning, shopping, preparing and serving up of meals at home.

The kitchen can be a fascinating place for children, and it is so important to spend time with them there! It does take extra effort and patience allowing kids to help in the kitchen. Initially they might make a lot of mess and mix up the wrong ingredients, but when they are older and leave the nest, it will be worth it! Cooking with kids can help them get interested in healthy foods they might not try on their own.

Allowing kids into the kitchen not only encourages them to try healthy foods, but it also gives them a sense of encouragement at accomplishing a task that helped contribute to the functioning of their family unit. They will be more likely to sit down to a family meal if they have had a part in its preparation, and this also allows them to spend less time in front of the TV or computer, and have more quality time with the family.

Younger kids can lay the table, older kids can clear up. Young kids can get out ingredients from the pantry and older kids can help slice up veggies, or measure out liquids for a recipe

Use your freezer

Certain meals can be cooked in bulk and frozen in advance to be used on rainy days – for example, lasagna, Bolognese, pasta sauces, soups, breads, calzones, pizza bases, pancakes and cookies.

Frozen fruits can make a delicious smoothie for breakfast, frozen berries make a coolie (just like a pro!) and stale French baguette makes the best French toast!

Appliances makes work easy

Investing in a good food processor or pressure cooker will make preparing and cooking healthier food easier and faster! Do preparation for the week in advance; if you know you will use chopped up onions most days of the week, chop extra onions at the start of the week so that you don’t have to prepare that vegetable again, and it will also save on the washing up! Just 10 minutes on a Monday will give you enough preparation for the rest of the week.

A pressure cooker will allow you to cook a meal quickly while seeing to homework or chores. You will be surprised at how advanced pressure cookers have become since our mums used them. The newer versions are safer, easier and even have timers!
A slow cooker can also be a lifesaver. Throw in a seasoned chicken and vegetables, set the timer and you have a meal waiting for you when you get back home.

Organise Organise Organise!

Yes I know! Most single parents are in their own ways organised already without having me to say it again, but organising your kitchen can cut cooking time by half! Keep utensils you use often close to your stove, clear clutter off the counters so that you can just cook and not have to clear up first. Sort through your ingredients and equipment you will use. Donate or make some extra cash from all those appliances you don’t use – this will help add funds for an appliance you know will actually make your life easier.

Try using the effective suggestions above to make life easier and more fun for you and your children. Meals don’t need to be complicated and elaborate or take hours to prepare. Often the meals that are simple and quick are often the best! You can do it – and you can do it the healthy way!

Faaizah Asmal Laher is a registered dietician in Johannesburg, South Africa. Faaizah’s great passion in life is assisting others to feel and live healthier by showing them how to shop, cook and eat more healthily and to embrace the wonderful benefits of mental and physical wellbeing. Contact her for all your nutrition related queries: faaizah.dietician@gmail.com or visit her blog http://www.faaizahsnutritionlab.wordpress.com

 

 

THE MENTAL TRAUMA CAUSED BY PREVENT ON MUSLIM CHILDREN

TAKEN FROM 5 PILLARS – http://5pillarsuk.com/2016/02/21/the-mental-trauma-caused-by-prevent-on-muslim-children/

Research psychologist Amar Alam explains the mental trauma the UK Government’s Prevent and Channel programme has caused Muslim children.

Over the last year, the government’s controversial Prevent strategy has led to concerns pertaining to the long-term social and psychological impact of counter-extremism policies on Muslim children across Britain.

Following the implementation of the Counter-Terrorism and Security Bill in 2015, the Prevent statutory duty was enforced in schools in an attempt to prevent young people from being drawn into acts of terrorism. However, the decision left the entire education sector embroiled in controversy after the government was accused of implementing policies in schools that were not only being disproportionately used against Muslim children, but were being enforced heavy handedly.

During one incident in North London, a Muslim pupil was referred to a child protection officer for using the term “eco-terrorism” in a classroom discussion about environmental activism. It was later reported that the student was singled out and accused of terrorist affiliations for expressing ideas that would have been commended had they been expressed by non-Muslim children.

In other cases, Muslim children have been referred for deradicalisation through the government’s Channel programme for espousing political views widely held in Britain and for exhibiting characteristics typical of youngsters growing up in the West. More recently, Muslim children have been referred for deradicalisation simply for expressing normative Islamic ideas and uttering Islamic terminology. This week, news also emerged of a schoolboy who was questioned by police under the government’s counter-terrorism legislation after he wore a “free Palestine” badge to school.

The hysteria surrounding Muslim children in the context of counter extremism policies was further stoked by the Mayor of London,Boris Johnson, who called for Muslim children to be taken into care because “radicalised” parents were teaching them “crazy stuff”. Such actions have led to an atmosphere of fear and anxiety, whereby Muslim pupils are being warned by their parents not to express any form of political or religious beliefs in school in case they are referred to Channel.

The concerns surrounding the disproportionate targeting of Muslim children under counter terrorism policies were again exemplified when six primary schools in Walthamstow, East London were accused of religiously profiling Muslim year 5 students using a “counter extremism” questionnaire under the council’s “Building Resilience through Integration and Trust” (BRIT) scheme.

Fears about the profiling of Muslim pupils and singling them out for “counter radicalisation” programmes were highlighted by Melanie Newman of the Bureau of Investigative Journalism. She reported that black and ethnic minority pupils in three schools in Barnsley were being singled out for signs of radicalisation using the “Radicalisation and Extremism Risk Assessment”. She uncovered white children were exempt from the schools’ counter radicalisation assessments, as it was assumed they were at low risk of radicalisation “due to their skin colour”, despite all three schools being based in an area with a history of far-right activism.

The unhealthy focus on the actions of Muslim children has led to a toxic atmosphere in schools whereby Muslim children have become targets of regular racist and Islamophobic bullying. An annual report published by the NSPCC in 2014 reported a significant increase in the number of children being given counseling for racist abuse in schools. The report also documented a 69% increase in racist bullying in educational institutions while the common theme was for young people to be labeled as “terrorist” or “bomber”. Recently published research by academics from the universities of Newcastle, St Andrew’s and Edinburgh also found that a majority of Muslim pupils in Scottish schools have experienced Islamophobia with children routinely being called “terrorists” and “p***s”. Last year, the National Association of Schoolmasters Union of Women Teachers reported Muslim children were regularly being taunted with jibes such as “terrorists” in schools, with similar acts of bullying linked to a stunt in the psychological development of Muslim children.

In America, a program similar to Prevent was stopped before its launch in light of concerns that it would increase bullying of Muslim children while doing nothing to counter radicalisation. Naureen Shah, a director of Amnesty International, pointed out “programs designed to identify potentially radicalised children in schools would almost certainly increase bullying.”

Such incidents, along with McCarthyist policies implemented in schools have led to an atmosphere of anxiety and mistrust among Muslim students, who now fear being labeled as extremists or treated as such if they express themselves freely during classroom discussions. Within this climate of fear, Muslim students feel they have to “tread carefully” as they are being monitored by teachers who may misunderstand or misinterpret their convictions. A secondary school teacher also highlighted how Muslim children he taught felt they held devalued positions in society and they did not speak out about their treatment for fear of being “a burden on society”.

While there is very little data at the present time about the long-term impact of labeling and the demonisation of young people within the context of counter extremism policies, studies have found negative labeling can damage children’s self-perceptions by lowering their self-worth, which could predispose them to mental health issues such as depression.

The impact of referrals through the Prevent strategy is also a major concern. Especially in light of findings that only 1 in 5 people referred to Channel’s deradicalisation programme between 2006-2013 required “supportive intervention”. That means 80% of people were referred to Channel for the wrong reasons. This has far reaching consequences for children and families wrongly referred to the programme because the stigma and shame placed on them by their communities as a result of being singled out as potential extremists could alienate them within society. Crucially, while a referral from Channel can easily be dismissed, the subsequent stigma placed on a child and their family cannot so easily be removed.

Similar fears were expressed in Bradford two weeks ago during a meeting between 70 young people and politicians from the Home Affairs Select Committee. It was disclosed by young Muslims that an “unhealthy focus” was being placed on them by counter-extremism policies and coupled with the anti-Muslim bias in the media, they were left feeling stigmatised. These concerns were also conveyed to the Home Affairs Select Committee last week by David Anderson QC, the independent reviewer of terrorism laws, and expert witnesses who warned about the stigmatising impact of the Prevent duty on children, especially since stigma can lead to long-term identity and self-esteem issues in children.

Such developments are deeply worrying. At a time when the government have spent millions trying to prevent young people from being drawn into violent extremism, academic research on their own website suggests their own policies and bias media reporting against Muslims could be creating an environment that potentially pushes them on to the path of radicalisation.

The opinions expressed in this article are the author’s own and do not reflect the views of his employer.