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Dr Bilal Philips – Practicing Islam in Modern Society

“There is no such thing as modern Islam, liberal Islam, Islam is Islam.”

A brilliant talk by Dr Bilal Philips on how in reality, the problems faced by the Muslims today are the same as those faced by the Muslims in the past, that the answers to our problems are in the Quran and the Sunnah, just as they have always been.

One of the best speeches from one of the best speakers out there, who has not compromised on the message in all his years calling to Allah, unlike so many other du’at in the English language.

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‘MALES CONTINUE TO BE PROTECTED BY MONOGAMY’

“The reality is that monogamy protects the males right to play around without any responsibility, since the incidence of infidelity among them is usually much higher than that among females. The pill and easy access to abortions opened the door to illicit sex and the female wanted to join in the fun. In spite of her natural and general inclination towards meaningful relationships, she became caught up in the so-called sexual revolution. However, she is still the one who suffers from the side effects of the pill, coil and the loop or the trauma of abortion in much the same way as she suffered in the past the same of child birht out of wedlock.

Meanwhile the male continues to enjoy himself worry-free, aside from the recent plagues of venereal diseases, herpes and AIDS which are now causing many to reassess their sexual habits. Males in general continue to be protected by monogamy, whilst prostitutes, call girls, mistresses, secretaries, models, actresses, store clerks, waitresses and girl friends remain in their playground. The fact is that institutional polygyny is vehemently opposed by male-dominated western society because it would force men to fidelity. It would oblige them to take socio-economic responsibility for the fulfillment of the polygynous desires and provide protection for women and children from mental and physical abuse.”

Bilal Philips and Jameela Jones, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ P16

http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/books/Polygamy%20in%20Islam.pdf

BUT MEN HAVE A ‘DEGREE’ OVER THEM…

“…And women have rights corresponding to the obligations on them, according to what is equitable…”
Quran translation, Surah al-Baqarah, 2:228

In spite of the fact that both parties should be kind toward each other, the right of the husband over his wife is greater than his wife’s right over him according to the completion of the previous verse:

“…But men have a degree over them. Allah is exaclted in power.”
Quran translation, Surah al-Baqarah, 2:228

(women have an) Emotional make-up which is ideally suited for child rearing but generally unsuited for ultimate authority, she may wrongly disobey or contradict her husband. Under the Influence of her monthly cycles, she may be contrary or high-strung and thus make bad decisions or and among mankind.

He has made man the dominant member of the pair. There need be no contention on this point has Allah has the last word on the subject. However, if we look at the animal kingdom, we must confess that a like division also exists among its members.

Nor are we aware of any country whether primitive or modern which has more than one reigning head in a position to make ultimate decisions. Every kingdom has a chief and Allah in His All-Encompassing wisdom and absolute knowledge of human nature has chosen man for that role. This choice does not detract from the uniqueness of the woman’s role nor does it belittle her in the least.

We are well aware of the fact that some women are more intelligent, and more capable of ruling and have a greater degree of talent than some men. We are witnesses to female heads of state, but these cases represent exceptions and not the norm which Allah addresses. In fact, there is an authentic Hadith in which the Prophet (Sallallahu
alayhi wa salam) stated that,

“If mankind had been ordered to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, women would have been ordered to prostrate before their husbands.”
Narrated by Abu Hurayrah and collected by Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah, authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albani in Sahih Sunan at-Tirmidhi

This is a clear indication of the hierarchy which exists in respect to the roles of males and female and the importance of of that hierarchy to the basic unit of human society, the family. In order to reinforce these roles, Allah made the male inheritance portion greater than that of the female. There is no doubt that a man’s familial and communal obligations are greater than most woman’s obligations in these spheres. It is his duty to support his
immediate family and weak kinfolk. In addition to these familial responsibilties, men must be prepared to defend and enlarge the borders of Islam even to the point of bearing arms. Women, under normal circumstances, are excempted from these and other similar obligations. The existing situation in the West, where many women have been obliged to compete with men for work while raising families, is an exception when looked at on a global scale and an abberation when looked at historically. Hence todays situation can not be used to aruge that a woman’s obligations are equal and exceed those of a man’s. In fact recent scientific research has uncovered a wealth of physical differences between men and women all of which affect the performance of male and females in society.

Taken from pages 29 and 30, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ by Jameela Jones and Sheikh Bilal Philips

‘FEAR ALLAH IN DEALING WITH YOUR SPOUSES’

A’ishah (RadhiAllahu ‘anha) reported that He (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) said:

“The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.”
Collected by Tirmidhi and ad-Darimi, and Ibn Majah from Ibn Abbas, authenticated by Shaykh Al-Albani in Sahih Sunan at-Tirmidhi

He also instructed men concerning women in his farewell address given at the time of his last pilgrimage to Mekkah:

“Fear Allah in dealing with your women because you have taken them in your trust by Allah’s permission and sex with them has been made lawful to you by (your mention) of Allah’s name in (your marriage ceremonies).”
Recorded in Sahih Muslim

Both partners in marriage should treat one another in a kind fashion in order to maintain a harmonious atmosphere in the home. The husband need not exercise his authority in a rough or arrogant way which might encourage the wife to react by being intentionally disobedient. The Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) said,

“Whoever believes in Allah and the last day should not hurt his neighbour and should admonish women in a good way for they have been created from a rib and the most crooked part of the rib is its upper part. If you try to force it straight, it will break; if you leave it alone, it will remain crooked. so give advice to women accordingly.”
Recorded in Sahih Bukhari

This is, due to a woman’s fragile emotional make-up which is ideally suited for child rearing but generally unsuited for ultimate authority, she may wrongly disobey or contradict her husband. Under the influence of her monthly cycles, she may be contrary or high-strung and this make bad decisions or unreasonable statements. This is a fact of life which men must allow for and deal with gracefully and not harshly. Regarding the aspect of harmony in married life, Allah has said,

“… Live with them [Women] in equity…”
Quran translation, Surah an-Nisa, 4:19

It is important for man and woman to live together in friendship and harmony, bearing the misfortunes or calamities which might befall one or the other or the family as a whole. It goes without saying that a woman should happily and peacefully fulfill her obligations to her husband, keeping in her mind the fact that she is basically an equal partner sharing rights and obligations with her man. Allah expressed this fact as follows:

“…And women have rights corresponding to the obligations on them, according to what is equitable…”
Quran translation, Surah al-Baqarah, 2:228

Taken from pages 28-30, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ by Jameela Jones and Sheikh Bilal Philips

‘THE BEST OF YOU IS THE ONE WHO IS BEST TO HIS FAMILY’

The fact that it is the responsibility of the man to maintain his wife and family does not mean that a woman may not help her husband in his professional pursuits or add to the economic stability of the family if the need arises or if they both agree for her to do so. By the same token, a man is also encourarged by the Prophet’s example to assist his wife in her household chores:

“His wives reported that he would often sew his torn clothes, repair his worn out shoes and milk his goats.”
Collected by Ahmad and authenticated by Shaykh al-Albani in Sahih al-Jami’ as-Saghir

On numerous occasions the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) encouraged men to be kind, gentle and helpful to their wives because it is the nature of the strong to take advantage of the weak. For example, it is reported by the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) said,

“The most perfect of the Believers in faith is the best of them in character and the best of you in character is he who is best to his family.”
Reported by Abu Hurayrah and collected by Ahmad and Tirmidhi and authenticated by Shaykh al-Albani in Sahih Sunan at-Tirmidhi

Taken from pages 27 and 28, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ by Jameela Jones and Sheikh Bilal Philips

‘MALES CONTINUE TO BE PROTECTED BY MONOGAMY’

“The reality is that monogamy protects the males right to play around without any responsibility, since the incidence of infidelity among them is usually much higher than that among females. The pill and easy access to abortions opened the door to illicit sex and the female wanted to join in the fun. In spite of her natural and general inclination towards meaningful relationships, she became caught up in the so-called sexual revolution. However, she is still the one who suffers from the side effects of the pill, coil and the loop or the trauma of abortion in much the same way as she suffered in the past the same of child birht out of wedlock.

Meanwhile the male continues to enjoy himself worry-free, aside from the recent plagues of venereal diseases, herpes and AIDS which are now causing many to reassess their sexual habits. Males in general continue to be protected by monogamy, whilst prostitutes, call girls, mistresses, secretaries, models, actresses, store clerks, waitresses and girl friends remain in their playground. The fact is that institutional polygyny is vehemently opposed by male-dominated western society because it would force men to fidelity. It would oblige them to take socio-economic responsibility for the fulfillment of the polygynous desires and provide protection for women and children from mental and physical abuse.”

Bilal Philips and Jameela Jones, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ P16

http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/books/Polygamy%20in%20Islam.pdf

BILAL PHILIPS AND JAMEELA JONES – MARRIAGE IN ISLAM

Marriage has been ordained by Allah as the correct and legal way to produce children and replenish the earth. The family is the basic unit of an Islamic nation or society. Allah has made the desire for mates and offspring instinctual for mankind and animals. Life on earth continues through children and children are the products of marriage. Nevertheless, marriage in Islam can not be viewed merely as means for uniting the male body with a female body and producing offspring, nor was marriage instituted just for purposes of satisfying natural desires and quenching passions. Its goals are much deeper in meaning than those obvious physical realities. Allah, the Most High, illuminates this fact in Chapter ar-Room of the Qur’an:

And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you might live in tranquility [li-taskunoo] with them and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.
Qur’an 30:21)

This tranquility [Sakan] is not simply what one may feel after satisfying sexual impulses but it is the serenity which follows a psychological need which has been fulfilled. Every individual is aware of having felt a lack or sense of loss within himself/herself which needed completion, a weakness which needed strengthening or loneliness which could only be removed by someone truly committed to him/her. The calm or emotional rest which one feels as a result of having fulfilled these needs can be termed tranquility [Sakan]. Thus marriage in Islam is more than just a means of obtaining legal sex; it is an extremely important institution which safeguards the rights of men, women and children while satisfying the physical, emotional and intellectual needs of the family members. The Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) illustrated the importance of marriage by saying,

“When a servant of Allah marries, he has completed half his religious obligations and he must fear Allah in order to complete the second half.”
Al-Bayhaqi, graded as hasan by Shaykh al-Albani

Bilal Philips and Jameela Jones, ‘Polygamy in Islam’ P20-21

http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/books/Polygamy%20in%20Islam.pdf