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Fragile Vessel – From a Blogger to the Bloggers

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I like how Hend Hegazi said in her recent interview with Umm Afraz Muhammed which is published here, that not everyone is going to like your work, your writing. She spoke a known, but not necessarily always remembered, fact. It is such an important fact to remember as a blogger. We need to let people “not like” our work, and consequently have peace with it in our minds.

Each one of us is unique, but not necessarily “good enough” in readers’ eyes. Some of us have huge word bank, while others use simpler vocabulary. Some share their thoughts in simpler form, while others find eloquence in a different path. Some hold degrees while others hold only experience. And so on….

Writing for many of us starts with the passion to share our thoughts in our own words. Pure love for writing motivates us to get started. But as human as we are, some times it is inevitable to fall in the trap of “likes.” This trap is oh so hard to avoid, and oh so depressing to be in. Like anything else in life, renewing our intentions is a must in this field too.

Keeping high goals as writers is understandable. For instance, wanting to write for sisters magazine some day (YES, that is a high achievement) or publishing one’s own book. Interestingly, to reach these goals in some undeniable manner we need to keep our readers happy. The more readers you have the better it is. Which is the very reason why it so hard to avoid the trap of “likes.” We need to balance it out for ourselves and remind ourselves from time to time. While we would like our content to be liked by readers, our writing should not be for the sake of “likes.” There is a huge difference. In first one, we share our thoughts as they are and then are content with how many ever people agree with our thoughts and like our work. Whereas in the latter one, we write in a way that readers may accept it – that is when we have lost the sole purpose of our writing.

Problem is in front of us and so is the solution.

We just need to remind ourselves and each other.

May Allah help us purify our intentions and help us write to spread good & knowledge for the benefit of Muslim Ummah and mankind in general. (Aameen)

WHEN SOMEONE BESIDES YOUR SPOUSE BECOMES YOUR “ROCK”

ORIGINALLY POSTED TO SISTERS-MAGAZINE – https://www.sisters-magazine.com/2016/01/15/marriage-breakers-when-someone-besides-your-spouse-becomes-your-rock/

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It has been several years since I got married, and even more since I have been witnessing the difficulties in the marriages of a few Muslim friends: sisters who seek my personal counsel now and then. In retrospect, if there is one thing I have learned, it is the wisdom behind Allah’s description of one of the prime qualities of righteous Muslim wives:

“Therefore, the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to the husband), and guard in (the husband’s) absence what Allah would have them guard…” [Quran – 4:34]  

When I studied the Qur’an at first, as a young teenager, I did not understand why the angels Hārut and Mārut were sent with the ability to teach witchcraft (called “sihr” in Arabic), as a fitnah for mankind, with this “magic” described further in the Qur’an as “that which creates discord between a man and his wife.” [Quran – 2:102]  

Years of experience have taught me the great Divine wisdom behind Allah’s laws, commands and words. I have also significantly understood why people want to cause dissension between a husband and wife. It happens more subtly and rampantly than we naively believe.

First, let us accept the fact that the reason why the husband-wife relationship is the prime target of Satan, our avowed enemy, is that it forms the foundation of the happy, hearty, productive Muslim family unit. This unit is, in turn, the foundation of a righteous society. If this relationship is good, the Muslim home functions smoothly, and the next generation of Muslims grows up morally and spiritually upright. However, if the husband-wife relationship is rocky and tumultuous, it undermines the emotional well-being of every individual in the family, particularly the children.

Nothing helps raise better children than righteous Muslim parents who are emotionally close, compatible like good friends, and incessantly loving towards each other. If the parents are practicing Muslims as individuals, but do not get along well with each other, the children will not be able to grow up feeling emotionally secure and confident.

In the early days, a husband or wife – or both – usually continue to seek advice and guidance in their personal matters from their parents, out of  habit:  both are young, inexperienced in making independent decisions, and not very close to each other. However, parents on both sides should discourage this in the long term as it can undermine the pair’s close relationship.

Imagine the wife always turning to her mother, father, sibling or friend when she faces any problem, be it a pregnancy-related ailment, a plumbing fault in the kitchen, or – Allah save us – intimate details of her last fight with her husband.

On the other hand, the husband might consult only his father for financial and career advice, or his siblings or friends when worried about some workplace problem, giving  his wife attention only when retiring to bed at night.

If both spouses continue thus, it will not be long before things take a downturn between them. This is because, no matter how close someone else might have been to the husband or wife before marriage, continuing to confide in them instead of their spouse will make them find out intimate marital details, which in turn will make them involved. Interference and conflict will be the obvious outcome.

Parents of the couple like to feel needed even after the marriage and take their time to let go. It is, however, entirely up to the wise couple to keep their personal matters to themselves; even something as trivial as what they had for dinner, what ornament they just bought for their living room, or what they plan to do with the annual job bonus.

Early in the marriage, say within one or two years, if things are not rectified, a wedge will form between the couple, and it can continue to keep them emotionally apart from each other with each passing year, even if they continue to occupy the same bed and have children.

In joint family systems, it is the wife who usually compromises, because she has little personal privacy or independence, and has to always “share” her husband with his relatives. More often than not, he continues to be close only to his family, treating his wife as just a housekeeper and child-bearer. He comes home and unburdens himself on his parents and siblings, whilst his wife is busy with the household chores. A wife might feel like talking to her husband after his day at work, but as soon as she sits with him, his mother may ask her to make the tea. When she leaves, her husband will then talk to his mother. This can make his wife seethe with frustration.

Many women piously put up with this compromise on their basic marital rights without protest, year after year. However, this acquiescence undermines their long-term marital happiness.

As I said before, it is entirely up to the individual husband and wife themselves to keep their guard up about divulging their personal matters to their families, whilst maintaining their mutual closeness. Polite but firm tight-lipped-ness should meet questions like, “So, are you in the family way yet?”, “Did you find out at the last ultrasound if it’s a boy or a girl?” or “What salary are you getting since your promotion?” We must remember that our parents and relatives love us and are concerned about us, however, whether their concern transforms into meddling is totally up to us.

Of course, individual families are always much more complex, and marital problems cannot be painted with a wide, generalising brush. Some couples are very open and accommodating with their respective families, with everyone living together very cordially, sharing everything in life without any problems. Each case is different, and what might work for some, could cause problems for others.

The best advice I can give to a married person is this: whenever you have to unburden yourself about a problem, or seek counsel before a major decision, or just need to vent your emotions:

1.  Turn to your spouse first – yes, even before you talk to your parents.

2.  Consult your spouse, even if you have mentally decided what to do.

3.  Conceal your spouse’s faults behind their back, and if someone mentions these fault(s) without just cause before you, be quick to come to their defence.

Remember, spending time together, openly communicating, and being emotionally available and responsive to your spouse is of prime importance for the marital relationship. Other relationships can be given their dues without compromising the closeness between husband and wife. This needs discretion, wisdom and tact, not to mention fear of Allah and conscious obedience of His commands.

Sadaf Farooqi is a Pakistan-based mother-of-two who has faced and overcome with Allah’s help, a wide spectrum of marital challenges. One of the most important lessons she learnt is that a person should not compromise emotional closeness to a pious spouse for the pleasure of others.

IMPORTANT LESSONS FOR THE MUSLIM UMMAH – IMAM IBN BAZ | DR SALEH AS-SALEH [eBook]

Source: Important Lessons for the Muslim Ummah – Imam Ibn Baz | Dr Saleh As-Saleh [eBook]

Author: Sheikh Abdul Aziz Bin Abdullah Bin Baz (rahimahullaah)
Translated by: Khalid A. Al-Awadh
Reviewed and Edited By: Dr. Saleh As-Saleh (rahimahullaah)
Published by : Co-Operative office for Call and Guidance, Riyadh

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Introduction

All Praise is due to Allah, we praise Him, and seek His help and forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah, the Most High, from the evils of our own selves and from our wicked deeds. Whomsoever has been guided by Allah, none can misguide him, and whomsoever has been misguided by Allah, none can guide him. I bear witness that there is no true god worthy of being worshipped except Allah, alone, without partner or associate. I further bear witness that Muhammad is His true slave and Messenger. May Allah, the Exalted, bestow His peace and blessings on the final Prophet Muhammad, upon his good and pure family, and upon all of his noble companions.

“O you who believe! Fear Allah (by doing all that He ordered and abstaining from all that He has forbidden) as He should be feared, and die not except in the state of Islam (as Muslims with complete submission to Allah).” [Al-Qur’an3:102]

“O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (‘Adam) and from him He created his wife, and from them both He created many men and women; and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights) and (do no cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is ever an All Watcher over you.” [Al-Qur’an 4:1]

“O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth, He will direct you to do righteous good deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger, he has indeed achieved a great success.” [Al-Qur’an 33:70-71]

Know that the most truthful speech is that of Allah’s Book (the Qur’an), and that the best of guidance is that of Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam. The worst of evils are innovations (foreign to the true teachings of Islam), and every innovated matter (in religion) is a bid’ah, and every bid’ah is a misguidance, and every mean of misguidance is in the Fire of Hell.

This is an introductory book for every Muslim. It is a summary of basic Islamic beliefs and acts of worship. We ask Allah by His Names and Attributes to accept this work and make it a benefit for those who read it and / or distribute it.

Khalid al-Awadh and Dr. Saleh As-Saleh

24/2/1413

8/12/1993

Contents

  • Introduction
  • The First Lesson – Memorise the Small Chapters of the Qur’an
  • The Second Lesson – The Conditions of the Shahadah
  • The Third Lesson – The Six Fundamentals of Faith
  • The Fourth Lesson – What is Tawhid and Shirk?
  • The Fifth Lesson – The Five Pillars of Islam
  • The Sixth Lesson – The Nine Conditions of Prayer
  • The Seventh Lesson – The Basic Elements of Prayer
  • The Eighth Lesson – The Obligatory Acts of Prayer
  • The Ninth Lesson – The Contents of At-Tashahud
  • The Tenth Lesson – The Sunan Acts of Prayer
  • The Eleventh Lesson – Invalidation of the Prayer
  • The Twelfth Lesson – The Conditions for Ablution
  • The Thirteenth Lesson – The Obligatory Elements of Ablution
  • The Fourteenth Lesson – The Six Nullifying Acts of Ablution
  • The Fifteenth Lesson – Recommend Morals
  • The Sixteenth Lesson – Islamic Decencies
  • The Seventeenth Lesson – Warning Others
  • The Eighteenth Lesson – The Funeral Prayer

The First Lesson – Memorise the Small Chapters of the Qur’an

Memorizing the opening surah (chapter) of the Qur’anal-Fatihah (the Opening) and some short passages and chapters from No. 99 (az-Zalzalah) to 114 (an-Nas). Every Muslim must make an effort to memorize, recite and understand passages and/or chapters from the Noble Qur’an.

The Second Lesson – The Conditions of the Shahadah

Knowing the meaning and the conditions of the declaration of ash-shahadatan that, “There is no true God except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is the Messenger of Allah”. The phrase that “there is no true God” negates anything or anyone that is being worshipped other than Allah, and the phrase, “except Allah”, confirms that all forms of worship, submission and adoration must be for Allah Alone, without setting up rivals with Him. The conditions needed to fulfill the meaning of ash-shahadatan are:

  1. Knowledge about what it means;
  2. Certainty about its meaning which dispels doubts and suspicions;
  3. Sincerity that purifies its declarer from any form of shirk (association);
  4. Honesty which negates hypocrisy;
  5. Love and attachment to the declaration of ash-shahadatan, which leads to the dispel of uneasiness, dislike, or hate to what it implies;
  6. Adherance – conducting what Allah has decreed regarding His worship;
  7. Accepting to obey Allah by this declaration; and
  8. Dissociating from anything or anyone being worshipped other than Allah.

The Third Lesson – The Six Fundamentals of Faith

The six fundamental articles of faith are:

  1. Believing in Allah (His Oneness);
  2. His Angels;
  3. All of His Messengers;
  4. All of His Scriptures (in their original and unaltered forms);
  5. In the Last Day (of Judgment); and
  6. Fate and Divine Decree (whether good or bad), which Allah Has measured and ordained according to His previous Knowledge and as deemed suitable by His Wisdom.

The Fourth Lesson – What is Tawhid and Shirk?

Tawhid (Faith in the Unity of Allah) is divided into three articles:

  1. Believing in the Oneness of Allah in the sense of His being the only Creator, Preserver, Nourisher, etc. This belief is called tawhid ar-rububiyah;
  2. Acknowledging that Allah Alone is the One and Only true God who deserves to be worshipped and thus abstaining from worshipping any other being or thing. This belief is called tawhid al-uluhiyah; and
  3. Having faith and belief in the Oneness of Allah’s Names and Attributes. This belief is called tawhid al-asma was-sifat.

As for shirk (associating anything or anyone in worship with Allah), it is divided into three types:

  1. Major shirk (ash-shirk al-akbar) which Allah does not forgive. Allah says regardingshirk:“But if they had joined in worship others with Allah, all that they used to do would have been of no benefit to them.” [Al-Qur’an 6: 88]“It is not for the mushrikin(polytheists) to maintain the Mosques of Allah (i.e. to pray and worship Allah therein, to looking after their cleanness and their building, etc.), while they witness against their ownselves of disbelief. The works of such bear no fruit, and in fire shall they dwell.” [Al-Qur’an 9:17]The one who associate others with Allah and dies on this shirk will not be forgiven andJannah (Paradise) is forbidden to him, as Allah,Most Mighty and Honored, says:“Verily, Allah forgives not that partners should be set up with Him in worship, but He forgives anything else, to whom He pleases; and whoever sets up partners with Allah in worship, he has indeed invented a tremendous sin.” [Al-Qur’an4:48]“Verily, whosoever sets up partners in worship with Allah, then Allah has forbidden the Jannah for him.” [Al-Qur’an 5:72]Asking the dead or idols for help, slaughtering for them and making vows for them are examples of this shirk.
  2. Minor shirk (ash-shirk al-asgar) which is stated in the Qur’an or in the Prophet’s tradition but is not the same as major shirk. Riya (showing off) and swearing by other than Allah are examples of this kind of shirk. Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Of which I fear for you the most is minor shirk.” When he was asked what was it, he said, “Riya.”He, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also said,“He who swears by anything other than Allah commits minor shirk.”The Prophet,sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, also warned, “Do not say, ‘Had Allah and such and such (person) willed’, but say, ‘Had Allah then such and such (person) willed.’ “. This kind of shirk does not necessarily lead to disbelief from Islam or an eternal stay in Hell. It negates, however, the completeness of faith.
  3. Hidden shirk. Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, explained, “Shall I not tell you of which I fear for you more than I fear of the Antichrist?” They said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah”, and he said, “Hidden shirk, where one beautifies his way of praying only because another one is looking at him.”

Alternatively, shirk could be divided into two kinds – major and minor. In this case, the hiddenshirk encompasses both the major and minor kinds depending upon the act committed. It is major if it is the same as the shirk of the hypocrites who hide their false beliefs while showing off Islam out of fear. It is minor if it is the same as riya.

The Fifth Lesson – The Five Pillars of Islam

The five pillars of Islam are ash-shahadatan (bearing witness that there is none worthy of being worshipped except Allah and that Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Messenger), establishing prayers, paying the alms (zakah), fasting the month of Ramadhan, and performing pilgrimage (Hajj) if one can afford it.

The Sixth Lesson – The Nine Conditions of Prayer

The nine conditions of prayers are Islam, sanity, maturity, performing the ablution (wudu), cleanliness from impurities (on the body, clothes, and place of prayer), dressing properly, having the intention of prayers, facing the right direction of qiblah(direction of the Ka’bah at Makkah), and the praying at the proper time.

The Seventh Lesson – The Basic Elements of Prayer

The fourteen basic elements (arkan) of prayers are standing (if one is able), sayingallahu akbar(Allah is the Greatest), reading the opening surah of the Qur’an (al-Fatihah), lowering the head and back down at the right angle (ruku’), resuming the initial standing position, prostrating with the toes of both feet, both knees, both hands and the forehead touching the ground (sujud), rising in a sitting position, a short rest in a sitting posture between the two prostrations, tranquility in all actions, performing the basic elements of prayer in order, the last tashahud (the second part), sitting for the last tashahud, exalting the Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and turning the face to the right side and to the left one saying as-salamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullah (peace and mercy of Allah be upon you) one time on each side.

(Note: Salah is invalid if any of the above is missing.)

The Eighth Lesson – The Obligatory Acts of Prayer

The eight obligatory acts of the prayer are all the occasions of saying allahu akbarother thantakbirat al-ihram (which is basic); saying samiallahuliman hamidah (Allah accepts any who are thankful to Him) by the Imam as well as the one who is praying alone, and saying rabbana wa laka al-hamd (Our Lord, praise be to You) for both theImam and the individual; saying subhana rabbi al-athim (Glory to my Lord, the Most Great) in ruku; saying subhana rabbi al-a’la (Glory to my Lord, the Most High) insujud; saying rabighfirli (Oh my Lord, grant forgiveness to me) between the two prostrations; the first part (at-tashahud al-awwal); and sitting for it.

(Note: if any of the above is missing, the Muslim needs to make sujud al-sahw).

The Ninth Lesson – The Contents of At-Tashahud

Knowing the contents of at-tashahud:

First Part: “At-tahiyyato lillahi was-salawatu wat-tayyibat. As-salamu alayka ayyuha an-nabi warahmatullahi wa barakatuh, as-salamu alayna wa ala ibadillahi as-salihin, ashadu an la ilaha illallah, wa ashadu anna muhammadan abduhu wa rasuluh.”

“Greetings, prayers ant the good things of life belong to Allah . Peace be upon you, O Prophet, and the Mercy of Allah and His blessings. Peace be upon us all and on the righteous servants of Allah. I bear witness that there is no true God worthy of worship but Allah alone, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His true slave and Messenger.”

Second Part: “Allahumma salli ala muhammad wa ala ali muhammad kama sallayta ala ibrahima wa ala ali ibrahim. Wa barik ala muhammad wa ala ali muhammad, kama barakta ala ibrahima wa ala ali ibrahim, innaka hamidon majid.”

“Oh Allah! Exalt Muhammad and the family of Muhammad, as you did exalt Ibrahim (Abraham) and the family of Abraham. And bless Muhammad and the family of Muhammad, as you did bless Abraham and the people of Abraham, verily You are the Most Praised, The Most Glorious.”

Following the reciting of the tashahud, the slave asks Allah’s protection from the torment of Hell, the torment of the grave, the trials in life-time and after death, and from the impostor Anti-Christ. After that he may supplicate and ask Allah whatever he wishes, especially the type of invocation said by the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam:

“O Allah help me to perform remembrance of You and to give all due thanks to You and allow me to worship you in the good way (i.e. as ordained by Allah and His Messenger). O Allah I have inflicted a great deal of wrong upon myself and there is none other than You who can offer forgiveness. Grant me forgiveness from You and grant me your Mercy. You are the All-Merciful, The Oft Forgiving.”

The Tenth Lesson – The Sunan Acts of Prayer

The sunnan (supererogatory) acts of the prayer:

  • The opening call of the prayer;
  • Placing the right hand over the left one with both over the chest while in the standing position;
  • Raising the hands up to the level of the shoulders or near the ears with the fingers being close together (not separated) when saying “allahu akbar” at the beginning of the prayer, when performing the ruku, when resuming the standing position afterruku, and when standing to begin the third unit of the prayer;
  • Saying “subhana rabbi al-adhim” and “subhana rabbi al- a’la” more than once inruku andsujud, respectively;
  • Saying “rabighfer li warhamni wahdini warzuqni wa’afni, wajburni” (Allah, my Lord, grant me forgiveness, have mercy on me, guide me, provide me with your blessings and console me) more than once between the two prostrations;
  • Bowing down, making the head and back on one level. This is the position ofruku;
  • While prostrating, the arms should not be brought close to the sides nor the abdomen to the thighs or the thighs to the legs;
  • Raising the arms in sujud;
  • Praying for the Prophet and the family of Muhammad, Ibrahim and the family of Ibrahim (as in tashahud);
  • Performing the early morning prayer and the first two units of the sunset and the evening prayer with an audible voice;
  • Sitting between prostrations on the outer side of the left foot (i.e. laying it flat) keeping the right foot erected with the internal parts of the toes touching the ground. The same position is to be taken while sitting in the first part of tashahud;
  • Taking the position of tawartruk during the recitation of the full tashahud – the person sits on his left foot laid down with his right foot erected;
  • Making du’a (to invoke Allah) following the recitation of the last tashahud;
  • Whispering the recitation in the dhuhr (noon), ‘asr (late afternoon), the third raka’hofmaghrib (sunset) prayer, and the last two raka’at of the isha’ (evening) prayer; and
  • Reciting another passage from the Holy Qur’an after the opening surah of al-Fatihah.

The Eleventh Lesson – Invalidation of the Prayer

Any prayer is invalid and nullified if any of the following acts are committed – Intentional talking, laughing, eating, drinking, uncovering the parts of the body of which are not allowed to be uncovered during prayer, excessive alteration in the direction towards the qiblah, excessive moving outside the regular acts and movements of prayer, without a proper reason and nullifying the ablution.

The Twelfth Lesson – The Conditions for Ablution

The ten conditions for performing ablution are:

  1. Islam;
  2. Sanity;
  3. Maturity;
  4. Intention;
  5. … its continuity (i.e. the person should not intend to discontinue his ablution before its completion);
  6. If one performs istinja’ (cleaning the areas of natural discharges with water) or with stones, tissues, leaves etc. (istijmar) before ablution;
  7. Water must be pure and mubah (i.e. it is not stolen or taken by force);
  8. The removal of all things that prevent water from reaching the parts of ablution such as mud;
  9. Those who continually lose their ablution (for example due to release of gas, urine, or any reason that nullifies ablution), must make prior to prayers; and
  10. Causes that requires ablution (e.g. urine, eating camel meat, sleep, etc.)

The Thirteenth Lesson – The Obligatory Elements of Ablution

The obligatory elements of ablution are:

  • Washing the face, including rinsing out the mouth with water and cleansing the nostrils of the nose;
  • Washing the two hands up to and including the elbows;
  • Wiping the whole head including the two ears;
  • Washing the two feet including the heels; and
  • Doing the ablution in the prescribed sequence, without delays.

The Fourteenth Lesson – The Six Nullifying Acts of Ablution

The six nullifying acts of the ablution are:

  1. Natural excretion, such as urine, feaces, gas, etc.;
  2. Any unclean substance excessively discharged from the body;
  3. Losing one’s reason due to sleep, loss of consciousness or otherwise;
  4. Eating camel meat (because the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, ordered so);
  5. Rejection of Islam; and
  6. Touching the sexual organs with hand (without any barrier: clothes and so on).

Notice: Washing the dead does not nullify the ablution except for that the washer’s hand touches (without any barrier) the sexual organs. Kissing women with or without desire does not nullify ablution because the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, once kissed one of his wives and prayed without performing ablution. This holds as long as there is no associated sexual excretions (e.g. semen). As for the saying of Allah, Most Glorified:

” … or you have been in contact with women (by sexual relations) … “ [Al-Qur’an 4: 43]

The contact with women is the involvement in a full sexual relation as related by Ibn Abbas (companion) and others, and it is the correct opinion.

The Fifteenth Lesson – Recommend Morals

The recommended morals for every Muslim are truthfulness, honesty, abstinence, modesty, courage, generosity, loyalty, refraining from everything that Allah had made unlawful, being a good neighbor, helping the needy, and other morals stated either in the Holy Qur’an or in the Prophet’s, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, tradition.

The Sixteenth Lesson – Islamic Decencies

Islamic decencies – greeting, cheerfulness, eating and drinking with the right hand, adhering to the Islamic conduct in entering and leaving homes and mosques and while traveling, dealing kindly with parents, relatives, neighbors, the old man and the young; congratulating, lamenting, and other Islamic ethics.

The Seventeenth Lesson – Warning Others

Warning against shirk (association) and against other wrongdoing such as witchcraft, murdering, taking the money of the orphan, dealing with interest (riba), escaping on the day ofJihad (war), speaking evil of faithful women, disobeying parents, breaking up with one’s relatives, false witnessing, harming neighbors, committing outrage upon others, and other warnings as declared by Allah and His messenger, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.

The Eighteenth Lesson – The Funeral Prayer

Washing the dead body and performing the funeral prayer:

a) Washing the dead:

When a Muslim is confirmed dead his eyes must be closed and his jaws brought together.

When washing the dead body, the whole body beginning with the exposed parts of ablution must be washed. The abdomen is gently squeezed and followed by washing of the anus and the sexual organs using a wet piece of cloth. Normal ablution will then be performed. The body is washed starting with the head and beard using water mixed with the leaves ofsidr (lote tree, if available). The right side must be washed before the left side and the body must be washed three times. Each time the abdomen is squeezed as above. The mustache and the nails are clipped, and when the body is clean, it is wrapped in three white cotton sheets covering all parts of the body and perfumed with incense. If the body is still unclean, ablution must be extended to 5-7 times after which the body is dried with a clean cloth. Men’s hair should not be combed while that of a woman is to be braided into three chains and left hanging down behind her (as done to the Prophet’s daughter).

It is preferred to shroud men with three white sheets without a gown or amamah (head cover); children in one up to three sheets and women in five sheets, these sheets are:

Dir’: a loose outer garment with sleeves slit in front.

Khimar: covering head and face.

Izar: a sheet wrapped around the waist, and

Two overall wrapping sheets.

Young girls can be wrapped with a gown and two sheets.

The one who has the most right to wash the dead body of a man is his chosen guardian (if any) then his father, his grandfather, then the closest of his relatives. The woman is best washed by her chosen female then the mother, the grandmother, then the closest one of her female relatives. The husband can wash the body of his wife and vice versa because Abu Bakr, may Allah be pleased with him, was washed by his wife; and Ali ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him, washed his wife, Fatimah, the daughter of the Prophet, may Allah be pleased with her.

b) The funeral prayer (salat ul-janazah):

Saying takbir (allahu akbar) four times. Reciting al-Fatihah after the first takbir. Following the second takbir, one prays for the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, as he does intashahud. Then after saying allahu akbar for the third time, one recites what is usually said in other prayers like asking Allah to forgive all Muslims or any supplications he knows, preferably this:

“Allahumma ighfir li hayyina wa mayyitina, wa shahidina wa ghaibina wa sagheerina wa kabeerina wa thakarina wa unthana. Allahumma man ahyaytahu minna fa ahyihi ala al Islam, wa man tawaffaytah u minna fa tawaffahu ala al-iman. Allahmma la tahrimna ajrah, wa la taftinna badah.”

“O Allah, grant forgiveness to our living and to our dead, and to those who are present and to those who are absent, and to our young and our old folk, and to our males and our females. O Allah, whomsoever you grant to live, from among us, help him to live in Islam and whomsoever of us you cause to die, help him to die in faith. O Allah, do not deprive us of the reward for patience on his (her, their) loss and do not make us subject to trial after him.”

Or one could say:

“Allahumma ighfir lah u warhamhu wa’afihi wa’fu anhu, wa’akrim nuzulahu wa wassi’ madkhalahu, wa’ghsilhu bil mae wathalgi walbarad, wanaqihi mina al-thunoubi walkhataya kama unaqa athawbo alabiado mina addanas, wa abdilhu daran khairan min darihi, wa ahlan khairan min ahlihi, wa adkhilhu al-jannah, wa aidhu min adhabi al qabr, wa adhabi an-nar; wafsah lahu fi qabrihi, wanawir lahu fehi. Allahumma la tahrimna ajrahu, wa la tudhlilna ba’dahu.”

“O Allah forgive him (her, them) and have your Mercy upon him; protect him and pardon him, receive him with honor and make his grave spacious; wash him with water, snow and hail, and clean him from sins and wrong-doings as is cleaned a white garment from impurity; requite him with an abode more excellent than his, and with a mate better than his mate. Admit him to the Garden, and protect him from the torment of the grave and the torment of the Fire; widen his space in his grave and bring him light therein. O Allah don’t deprive us from his reward and don’t let us go astray after him.”

Then after saying allahu akbar for the fourth time one turns his head to the right (makingtaslim) and thus ending the funeral prayer.

It is best to raise one’s hand while saying allahu akbar. In the case when the dead is a child or an infant, the following du’a is made:

“Allahumma ejalhu dhiktan liwalidayehi, washafeean mujaban. Allahuma thaqil bihi mawazeenahuma wa a’dhun bihi ujorahuma wa alhiqhu bi salih al-mu’minin, waj’alhu fi kafalati ibrahim alayhi as-salam, waqihi bi rahmatika adhaba al-jahim.”

“O Allah make him a preceding reward and a reserve treasure (on the Day of Judgment) for his parents; a one whose intercession would be granted. O Allah make of him an excess in the measures and in the rewards (granted by Allah) to his parents. Let him join the company of the righteous believers and make him under the care of Abraham (may the peace of Allah be upon him), and protect him, by Your Mercy, from the torment of the blazing Fire.”

The tradition is for the Imam to stand right next to the head of the body if it is a man, and to the middle of the body if it is a woman. If the dead were many, men, women, male and female children in one funeral, the following positions are to be taken:

The men right in front of the Imam. The women further towards the qiblah. The male children are between the men and women and more towards the men while the female children follow women further down in the direction of qiblah (all of the dead bodies are to be laid parallel to those praying). The bodies are to be arranged such that the head of the male child lies next to that of a man while the middle of a woman lies next to the head of a man. The head of the female child lies next to the head of a woman.

The followers of Imam are to stand behind him just as in other prayers. It is acceptable for one to stand to the right of the Imam if he finds no place behind him.

All praise is due to Allah and His blessings and peace be upon His Prophet, his family and his companions.

(s) A lesson given by Shaykh Abdul-‘Aziz ibn ‘Abdullah ibn Baz
(t) Khalid A. al-Awadh
(e) Dr. Saleh as-Saleh

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