We all want to be loved and know what that love means to us and would look like practically if we we think about it deeply enough. We also assume before marriage that others wish to be loved as we want to be loved, in the same way as ourselves.
Then the arguments started…
The truth is the way we want others to show us affection in our marriage is not always the same as they wish us to show them affection and that understanding these different love languages, becoming fluent in the love language of our spouses is one of the easiest ways of pleasing them and being good to him or her.
the Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wa salam) said: “The most perfect of the Believers in faith is the best of them in character and the best of you in character is he who is best to his family.”
Reported by Abu Hurayrah and collected by Ahmad and Tirmidhi and authenticated by Shaykh al-Albani in Sahih Sunan at-Tirmidhi
Though written by a non-Muslim, ‘The 5 Love Languages’ by Gary Chapman is one of the best books I’ve seen written on this subject and something every Muslim couple should have on their book shelf.